Tuesday April 1st 2014
When you meet someone, you may engage in small talk. These shortcomings of conversation are generally about the schooling you're currently enrolled in, your profession, how many kids you have or if you saw the latest box office film. But when it comes to your passions, beliefs and faith, people tend to back away, change the topic or suddenly have an appointment they need to "head off to before they're late".
For myself, I tend to tell people I'm Christian quite early on in our acquaintanceship or friendship and I have had mixed responses. Generally, the response is quite neutral and people may ask a question or two. It's the questions that cause the concern...
My favourite questions are when people ask "so.... Do you drink/have sex/live with your partner?".
No. My answer is honest and clear. This answer tends to sit uncomfortably for non-Christians and they tend to respond "what? Are you crazy?! What do you do for fun?"
I don't drink because I have alcoholism in my family, and I don't see the benefits of throwing up after too many drinks, getting myself into bad situations and forgetting the whole night anyway; what was the point of going? Not because I'm a Christian.
I don't have sex because I don't want to. Although I have engaged before, I now live a life of celibacy because I found my life partner and together we have decided that sex is an important experience to enjoy after marriage as we have had our own shares of bad experiences in the past. Sex before marriage has always lead to personal destruction for us. Not because I'm a Christian.
I don't live with my partner because I simply appreciate the modern fairy tale traditions of dating,
engagement, marriage and then moving in together. It just fits for me :) Not because I'm a Christian.
Ironically, these values were put into my life way before I started my walk with God :)
Although I had strength around what I believed in for me, I started to believe the words people said about me.. Am I a freak? Am I no fun? Am I boring? Am I not living life? Am I crazy?
When I first became a Christian, I was highly intrigued by verses and the meanings behind them. It was a few months into my walk with God when I came across the following verse;